You don't punish their . A CV in the US is the entirety of all your skills and work experience, correct? This is a good approach. Yeah, it just sounds like a mismatch of culture. Heck, if she did that to me now as an adult I would be pretty insulted. TikTok mom who got 'dumped' while pregnant shares how Tinder date became her fianc. This is much more serious rerouting the conversation into total self-deprecation and saying things like Ill probably be fired soon* when she gets feedback like hey, can you start the filename for TPS reports with the client name rather than your name, thanks, *her work is excellent and she does not lack for positive feedback on it. I think Redhead was trying to flag that some states have extended ADA/FMLA protections beyond the federal parameters, so OP should visit their states department of labor (or equivalent) to learn more about their coverage. Is it just a problem for women in the US? OP1 I appreciate that you know your own employee and the wider context, but your description made me smile because thats just how we normally do things in Britain :) I cant imagine interrupting someone at work to ask a question without saying Sorry to bother you, but would you mind or Sorrycan I just ask a quick question? Im new to my job and Im always starting off questions with something like OK, stupid question, but can someone tell me where the stationery is again? or Ive got another stupid question! Does speculating on the cause of the self-hatred, or acknowledging that there might be a traumatic past there give some kind of extra insight? How else do we learn and do things if we do not ask questions? They eventually stopped using the word stupid in front of the word question. Sorta related to #3: I was surprised to learn a resume and a CV are not the same. Not necessarily what happened here but be aware that this could be a survival tactic for someone whos endured trauma: a very documented, logical, and expected survival tactic. Someone who I consider a friend at work, who I've known for 4 years, sent a text to my work phone saying she needed a friend to talk to. Or treating a co-worker rudely and inappropriately. I like a lot of this! and recipient (has Buttercup squeed in the year Ive known her?) No one is assuming anything about all trauma survivors. I think LW1s employee needs consistent reinforcement, and maybe a brief discussion along the lines of Have I ever made you feel like you asked a stupid question? Regardless of whether or not they do so, though, the default really has to be: Specify the results needed (level of productivity, level of reliability, level of positive, collegial personal interactions, response to feedback, use of professional language, minimizing of personal gossip, tidying shared spaces, etc); along with a generally positive message about appreciating the person, and their effort, and their work. Ive worked in non-profits/social sector for nearly 15 years and I wouldnt expect applicants to leave off corporate sector, teaching, or community building experience for most jobs those skills could be highly relevant, even though the sector is different. Thats all I had to say but instead I had to be lame and I said, I couldnt pull that off. I meant it as kind of a compliment but he took it the wrong way. I do not like to be the center of attention either and do everything in my power to be off from work on my birthday. Its actually called growing edge. Also, while intent does matter, the outcome of ones actions matters more. But the good stuff the sweet stuff where it was oh helpful and light? I started taking new projects again, had a ton of work, and suddenly they call me back and want me to start in two weeks, tops. But how often do things come up that really cant wait until my boss finishes their sentence in an email or gets a cup of coffee from the kitchen? Link? Also, its always, always best to err on the side of caution at work. That helped me shift my verbal habit to something else. Ive always felt gifts should only be something I would really like, given because the giver wants to give. So she needs to move to I need this from you and this is affecting your work because those things are also true and the original approach hasnt been effective. While making an effort to become more aware of how we might be overdoing the negative (or simply annoying people), it helps to also add to your "coworker I want to work with" stats. They DO like you. OP4, I found the best resource was my states website. The Captain Awkward post referred to by Amber Rose is amazing. But its frustrating and upsetting as a manager. 2. This. Or has the point come and gone? At the end of the day, I work for him. I didn't want to risk having her shut down to me. it an apology? Exactly. Dont address it unless she does something really inappropriate. Employee can have a dozen reasons to do this but they dont negate that its stressing out her coworkers and making her look unprofessional. Well, that is far easier to fix, and also will actually prevent the issue from happening again. I like Alisons direct approach, but Ive found that it also tends to work better if you say, Do this, not this, rather than just Not this. I learned to replace saying ok aloud by doing an unrelated, slight movement (I press my left thumb and forefinger together very slightly). It kind of took the wind out of his sails, and I could tell he was having second thoughts that maybe it wasnt as cool as he thought. wishes. Never mind that this seems to have been doubly awkward for OP because of the office culture. 5 minutes late to dinner? Maybe youll find something even better! Hopefully this will help her realize how frequently its happening and the effect it has on others. If her work is working with other people, then it is. Youre a great assistant, and Id never want you to feel like I wasnt recognizing you and your work, and how thoughtful you are., Depending on how that conversation goes, it might even be useful to talk a little about the gender dynamics in play in your culture something like Ive found that in male-dominated environments like this one, women are judged pretty harshly for doing anything that could be seen asfrivolous, so Im careful to avoid it might give her some context. the person who wanted to become an entomologist got bugs, person who was a fan of X show got X show). Its reasonable for her to feel awkward. Its a lie that rapists tell because they dont want to admit what theyve done. If the boss is hurting you, this is a tough question. ~ Julia Roberts. She didnt do anything offensive, yes, she wasnt successful in making the OP happy but she wasnt being childish and she wasnt violating boundaries. I do a variation of this: Is now an ok time? And then folks can tell you when a good time is, or they can handle it, then. I thought similarly, though I think shes more likely to have had an abusive boss who screamed at her for the slightest of things in the past if she apologizes for doing her job and existing. For these reasons, I thought it was spam. (Thinking back to my own transition from a job where the manager would scold us for going to her for things that required her approval to a job where you got lauded as professional and helpful for asking your manager to fix problems as soon as you notice them.). When I was at uni, my house,ages organized me a surprise birthday party it was an excuse for a piss up, you know what students are like and I found out by accident. Does she feel she has adequate training or is there training available that she has not gone to yet because there is no time. into stuffing their feelings so far down they dont even know they Because I want to highlight the relevant parts of my experience, Im currently using three different versions of my resume one that highlights my teaching experience, one that highlights community building and event planning, and one that includes absolutely everything, for those positions that seem to want superwoman to appear. There is someone I work with who always prefaces her question with some variation of sorry to bother you and/or I know youre busy. Cry and move on. I dont think Id go the profuse apology and flowers route for the Assistant who took it upon herself to make an issue of someone elses birthday who did not ask for it. I think youre right, Sam.. Dont make it about the gender. Do you have underlying concerns that cause you to approach things this way?. They give you a problem, it takes 30 or 40 minutes to work through it, they give you another problem, etc. Not often in my case. If you want work history, ask for it. people. I think I hurt her feelings. Even five minutes can help replenish you. Johns will act like everyones a burden, that everything you ask them to do is one. Its complicated by the fact that in America they also have a document called a CV for academia which is like a really long CV listing everything an academic has done including all their publications nothing like what a British Isles resident would recognise as a normal CV. Youre doing that thing when you apologize for things that are no ones fault And somewhere, deep inside me, I didn't want to give up on the excitement and artificial closeness I'd formed with the woman at work. The employee is an adult who needs to navigate the working world on her own. If you repeated a piece of hurtful gossip, your friend might ask you to tell people the story wasn't true. Birthdays should only be recognized at the office if the birthday person wants them to be, aside from a casual happy birthday . Thanks for the empowering comment! The difference in a CV and resume is critical here. I didnt say everyone has these symptoms after surviving such situations, nor did I say OPs employee has this. I said I used to act like this and this is why and this is what helped me and maybe it will help here. I dont think anyone whos commenting anything can pretend they arent pulling from their own experience. Pouty, sullen behavior at work because things didnt go your way is bad behavior. Its sad, but there are plenty of sick people who would be drawn to that like flies; when you bar predators from being teachers and coaches they move on to other means of accessing children. I also cant really imagine anyone wanting to hire me if Ive got a medical mystery happening. That was part of the problem too because it was all gross ugly manipulation. DO NOT ADVISE THIS PERSON THAT WORKING WITH THEM IS DIFFICULT OR UNCOMFORTABLE. ITYM "making a mountain out of a mole-hill"? Do you want to say that a different way? Brief knock on the door and something like got a sec?. Not sure if thats the context for this position, but in my university this would be very normal (including the 8 hour interview with other departments). Shes lucky to have someone who wants to get her to shift for professional and personal reasons. Nobody got hurt in this instancebut its not something I would want to see happening again. But its a red flag. Yeah, its pretty common some places (e.g., northern Midwest) to say sorry as a social nicety more than an actual apology, and if that were the case here, the OP pushing back may be out of place. This is what we talked about. Hearing would you like to try that again? from another adult? And thats good. A LOT. First, I reaffirmed and identified where they excelled (really smart, highly organized, creative thinkers, good at anticipating and solving problems, always offering high value-added suggestions, great team members who worked well in groups, etc.). We are, for example, forever However, I have been friends with people like your assistant (who sounds great) and trying to get them to understand that I dont want to make a song and dance of my birthday was agony. THANK YOU. And right now what they have shown the LW is that theyre slow, disorganized, and erratic in communicating. Take a big, deep breath as you walk to your car and as that air leaves your lungs let go of all those awful experiences with your co-workers. The way it was explained to me was that after the Soham murders (by a school caretaker/janitor) a lot of schools made this change based on the resulting inquiry. I agree with tusky. The lesson that I have learned is to check in with someone first to see how they feel about such things. It shouldnt take an entire fiscal quarter to hire someone. On the 5th, I was again emailed by the recruiter, who told me that not everyone was available (due to vacations and what-not) to make the decision. You'll feel better sooner if you embrace this step. Like Its easier on me and takes less of my time if you can phrase things so I can just get straight to your question, and name not apologizing as one way to do that. If OP starts by saying, Its difficult to work with you, theres a good chance this employee with high anxiety will only hear those words and not any of the contextual stuff that follows. feelings are the tip of a much larger iceberg. Theyre also used to being told theyre not good enough to do anything or work/think/live independently. So I left work early, grabbed my dog, and took her to a DIY dog wash place to get my mind off of yet another rejection (Id been searching on and off for 5 years). Fake it til you make it. @Indie, particularly because demeans is such a very strong word! (When I did it before, I was able to schedule it for Monday and then went back to work on Tuesday and in retrospect I wish I was able to take Tuesday off, too. Yeah OP isnt being dishonest but it sounds like its happening pretty regularly which makes it seem like theres more to it than just a quirky interviewer. Lots of folks would be uncomfortable here. These sorts of strange/suspicious interviewers definitely exist, but theyre a clear minority. Privacy Policy and Affiliate Disclosures, my coworker has terrible imposter syndrome, my coworker with imposter syndrome actually does suck at her job, my employer requires us all to do tai chi in the office, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P8sNSNkWFpc, https://captainawkward.com/2018/07/19/rule-explainer-why-we-dont-diagnose-people-through-the-internet/, https://www.askamanager.org/2017/06/i-have-to-fire-a-highly-inept-summer-intern.html. Efforts to correct this resulted in more apologizing. Did they act out of ignorance and incorrectly project their assumptions of the LW? Its five answers to five questions. Walking on rocks, hurts. At least in higher ed (not sure which ed sector youre looking in) people submit CVs even for non-faculty, non-academic positions. Reassure her she wont be punished for asking questions. standards. No ones saying the boss should be mean and harsh, but these kinds of behaviors can hold people back from progressing in their careers and it would be kind of OP1 to tell her that. It would definitely raise some red flags if your resume had a lot of gaps due to intentionally leaving things off. Her manager is right to want to reassure her if that leaks on a long time, but sometimes we guess wrong and its awkward and we learn that that thing we thought everyone liked isnt universal after all. But the this is a stupid question part definitely is! destructive question: Who is right and who is wrong. How did Space Shuttles get off the NASA Crawler? I still havent found a good coping method for talking to intense, angry people. You shouldnt need to view a person as possibly a survivor of abuse or trauma to know to be kind, thoughtful and compassionate. Powered by Discourse, best viewed with JavaScript enabled. Some possibilities that came to mind pretty quickly are: listing everything is the norm in that specific industry in that area, OP only has a few past employers so they expect all to be on her resume, the relevant experience is from jobs pretty far back and theyre expressing surprise no job from the last 15 years was listed (yes that is hyperbolic). My summers shoveling horse doo fully prepared me for the field of IT, Im very experienced with $hit hitting the fan. I suppose it all comes down to tone if someone was constantly saying Im so sorry, Im stupid, Im an absolute idiot but I cant remember how to do X, I know Ive been shown, Im sorry, I should do better, I apologise or something equally over-the-top, then youd probably speak to them, but starting a question with Sorry to bother you or similar is 100% part of normal office interaction here. Letter #1 sounds like it could be my sister. Interviewer (HR) wants to know more about a job offer I accepted. After a week or so, I was scheduled for an 8-hour (across morning coffee, lunch, and an end-of-the-day chat) interview divided into 30-minute segments with 20+ peoplepeople who by their own admission I would not work with on a day-to-day basis (which I only mention because it seems like interview overkill). Share the best GIFs now >>> Does she have her stuff organized so she can find it? I figured out recently that I use stupid question to mean someone at some point really did think about this issue, right, because its about to blow up? or in your sense of I know I know this, Ive just forgotten. I never use it to mean I am an idiot and you are de facto better than me.. Do I get any security benefits by natting a a network that's already behind a firewall? In your position, what I would do is tell her If you have a question, or do anything that I feel is inappropriate or unprofessional, I will tell you. This is how I see the conversation evolving: In this usage, a noun or pronoun is used between "hurt" and "feelings." Lou is very sensitiveyou can't say the slightest critical word to him without hurting his feelings. This It contained items that all pointed to those two cheating: condoms, UTI testing kits, yeast infection treatments, a protein powder that had cheating in the name, a poster that said "You Get Lost", etc., etc. My boss decided to organise a birthday lunch for my team, told me about it the morning of, and I reacted by nearly being in tears. In your example, we know the person is speeding, and speeding is unsafe behavior. If I knew that talking to someone caused this level of dread, then Id apologize for interacting with them too, because I dont like upsetting other people. Any suggestions on resources for that? I once had a supervisor tell me that I should try to be more confident, which wasnt particularly helpful without any other context. But given all the unknowns right now, I completely agree with Alisons advice. Fight mental fatigue by taking mental health breaks. UK Schools now are expected to do more than just the DBS background check because The gender thing could well have blow back on the OP if Assistant told anyone she said it. Im a big believer in the idea that hiring is everyones job, and am always an advocate of candidates meeting people across the company, even in areas they wont personally interact with a ton. Stack Overflow for Teams is moving to its own domain! That wont raise an eyebrow. Dear Boss, I recently learned that there's a rumor at my office (at a company of around 250 employees) that I am involved with a male work friend of mine. Another big difference is the thank you notes they would be considered really weird and a bit shady over here. Co-signed. No surpriseshe was a domestic abuse survivor. Exactly I can describe someone as anxious, or quick tempered, or irrational, or disorganized, or prone to making errors, or easily distracted. We are nobodies. I did not like doing them but they really helped me go from someone who had been fired from more than one student job because I was too shy to get things done, to someone who is pretty assertive and normal. I like making people feel good regardless of how minuscule the gesture would be, even if thats no gesture at all. The trick is speaking them. Generally, conservative offices frown on things flowing upwards. It makes me feel good on the type of companies that reached out and which ones were successful. Honestly the self abuse and trauma from anxiety, self loathing and depression as well are enough to approach anyone with compassion and desire to help them ease their suffering. PCBHcan you elaborate what you mean by CTJ talk? Especially in the context of the original letter. But see no reason to insult the admin. Yep, this is exactly the way to think of it. Getting her flowers or having a conversation about feelings at this point seems unnecessary, since you already said thank you and also explained that you werent into birthdays. When you're sitting with uncomfortable feelings it might be tempting blurt something out right after an argument, but Dr. Forshee suggests taking a step back . have them. The easiest way to hide your feelings is to simply treat them normally. Yeah that was my thought. 7 Tips to tell someone they hurt your feelings: Examples. Seriously hurt feelings by coworkers!!!! I still try to avoid most questions to my boss if I can, even though he is tons of times more supportive than the first one. Im sorry this is so challenging, and it sounds like youll need to emphasize to be even more direct and blunt with her (at some point, you may need to tell her shes forcing others to manage her emotions, and its not right). I know that this is my own projection, and likely not the case. Part of a managers job is to guide their employees to succeed by mentoring them and maybe even preparing them for another job or a step up. OP4, I too have a chronic illness. My church was unable to offer any comfort, so when a coworker and her husband invited me to their church, I welcomed their invitation. I sit on hiring committees in my department, and Im really only interested in seeing experience not relevant to teaching on a resume if (a) its connected to a specific skill that the candidate needs to teach in that role (ex. Its not necessary to classify a preference as common/normal. Nos, even soft nos on something generally culturally accepted need to be respected. One of my old offices had everyone assigned to do a birthday. It means shes more difficult to work with/they may delay working with her. That it was distracting and made them sound less competent than I knew they were. Example 1: He said, no such thing as a stupid question Someone asked a question and he said I was wrong, thats a stupid question. Even if the work, once extracted, is good. Yep, Ive been freelancing entirely for just under a year. Theyre a person with a specific religious, social, cultural, financial, educational, familial background. However, Im in the running for a desk job Im very excited about. Its not her job to walk on eggshells because she may cause her more issues or anxiety. I thought you were different from the rest. Hurt feelings are non-negotiable, and only build over time. OP1: Do you want to say that a different way? is going to come across as incredibly condescending. Gaps in employment or schooling are one of the standard ways schools look for issues/concerns with predatory behaviour/jail time. It might not make for an ideal candidate experience, but tbh Id almost always rather work for a company that has a distributed, democratized hiring practice like this over one where you meet your direct manager for an hour and no one else. Things like these have to be handled swiftly and tactfully. This. Site design / logo 2022 Stack Exchange Inc; user contributions licensed under CC BY-SA. It took my new boss some time to convey to me that A) no question is stupid, B) I am not bothering her by asking for clarification, and C) I was not going to get dropped like a hot potato for any tiny errors. The non-apology apology? Id be very upset if HR was giving out my personal info. Its really, really normal to do what youre doing. I think it can be helpful to understand why a person is behaving the way they are because it informs how to deal with them. Bad bosses leave deep scars. Its one thing to leave off a 3 month retail stint, but if 2/3 of your experience over the last 15 years isnt included, that seems weird. Could be therapy, could be something I can do myself by being mindful, could be something I ask for help with (point at me if you see me doing X again), could be something I find a new job over. When feeling hurt, we can focus on the things we are most grateful for. We dont have to follow Acting normal and exhibiting no individual traits scripts. Photo: Barbara Freeman/Getty Images. Two people intend different things, whose is the priority? I dont want that kind of attention. So would an engineer need a CV in America or a resume? If so, would it make sense for the LW to frame the question as I may need accommodations under ADA for a health condition? Nevertheless, most people start with exactly the most (Kidding, I ignore it then too. Practice a bit more empathy. how to respond to sorry when you were inconvenienced, my male coworkers keep vomiting emotionally on me, teen daughter wants to quit her new job, can we tell our unhappy coworker to leave, and more, our boss gave a lecture about self-care to our very overworked team, my employee refuses to do her job and leads me in circles about why she wont, coworker brings her baby to every meeting, manager is shocked no one sent a thank-you note for our raises, and more, my interviewer sent me an email saying my scars are triggering, my manager insists on unreasonable deadlines for my projects, how do I care about work when my life is falling apart and other mental health questions, employee wants more praise but hes not doing a good job, nosy coworker, and more, I work next to a haunted house, and other tales of Halloween. Abused and anxious people arent used to being praised in any way. Its their responsibility to communicate what they want. Put up a note to remind you, if necessary. Be prepared to ask for feedback on why you didnt get it. No thank you. Its been a couple of months since I sent this letter and Ive really tried to focus on that. It didnt go over well, but its no reason for people to accuse the admin of being presumptuous or childish. Slowly count to 10 in your head. My company switched from paid to unpaid or use vacation pay at the beginning of the year, so that sucks. Endorphins can cause a feeling of elation or euphoria. #1 Heres a slightly different thought. I Am The Only Family Member Not Invited To A Wedding - What Should I Do. Remember, while getting hired is your highest priority, hiring someone is not their highest priority. well i asked not to replace either of them but to add another one named "denise". (I just dont have a better phrase for direct, this is a big deal, things have to change talk. 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